::Sweet Chemistry - Platonic Relationships & Their True Meaning::

I'm using this post as an open discussion forum because I've had so much back and forth about this topic.

Time and time again I've been in 'situations' where I was led to believe that a relationship was platonic but further down the line, it seemed as if there were ulterior motives from the beginning.

What are the rules of friendship as it pertains to each gender? I know that as a female myself, I have certain ideals of friendship, but they may not be the same for the male counterpart. It seems that there is this game of "Let me be the friend first to get in good with her emotionally and have her trust me and then, I'll go in for the kill. Hook, line and sink-her."

Don't get me wrong, the greatest relationships have been built from friendship, but not with two opposed beginning motives.

(I feel like I'm all over with this.. Shoulda structured my thoughts a little better before I took to the keyboard lol)

At what stage or point in the friendship should other thoughts or feelings be acknowledged? Lets say you meet someone whom you're physically attracted to. But that person says "I'm only interested in being friends. I'm not looking for a relationship." Does that mean that those two people can't have a friendship at all because of the way it was initially approached? How does this work out so that both parties are satisfied with the outcome?

A few of my male friends have had two varying theories. One being that platonic relationships cannot exist at all. The male will always try to find a way to make things be more than what they are or try to add a sexual degree to the 'friendship' (that benefits factor kicks in right about ).

Another guy says that platonic relationships can exist on a situational basis. Here's the example that was used:

"Lets say I have a girl. And she has best friends that come around all the time. In turn, her friends become my friends. Friends with whom I would never be with or even desire to be with because I know them on a different level and met them through an intermediary known as my girl."


I previously wrote about this topic somewhat from a more personal standpoint. I guess this time around, I'm just interested to see everyone's point of view. Let me know what you think and how you feel about this topic.

C.Renee

::Sweet Love - Soul Mate Definition::

Came across this blurb of an open love letter that actor Brian White wrote entitled ‘What falling in love with Paula Da Silva has taught me’. Beautifully written and humbly truem I decided to post because... just because! Do I need a reason? Congrats to the new couple and all their nuptial success!

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so out of control that you have to transform your life…”

 C. Renee

::Sweet Faith - Let go, Be happy::

All summer I've been going through this career battle. (As you all have read in a few posts) I'm in a position where I don't want to be. And it's taking such a toll on my soul that it's starting to make me sick... I get intense moments of stress... Longing for career and lifelong happiness. Wishing I was in a comfortable enough position to quit and do what truly makes me happy.

But I can't... I NEED this job because I have bills to pay and I have to keep a roof over my head.... If every one of my followers donated a dollar to the "Charrise, go head and quit that job, girl!" I'd quit lol. I'd walk away and motivate people. Not sure of how I'd keep a constant flow of money but I'd make a way....

I'm continuously being a slave to this dismal paycheck and it sucks dirty monkey butt... But day by day I get closer and closer... I'm so blessed to be surrounded by people who love me and keep me motivated. Sometimes all we need is an ear, a kind word, or a greatly worded blog post to know that we're doing ok and things will be alright.

I went to a networking event yesterday and I'm so glad I got the chance to get out. I really enjoyed myself and the company that was kept. I even got a taste of some Thai food (Word to @Tamore2382 and Buddha in downtown Atlanta)

I say this all to say that sometimes, in moments of stress, we must learn to let go and CHOOSE to be happy and look at the good things that we DO have and the things that are going RIGHT when it could be so much worse. In this economy there are many people who wish they could at least have a job. And here I am complaining about mine... Something better will come along. I know it will.

I have to take my own advice that I constantly give: "Sometimes we have do the things we hate now to enjoy all the things we love later"....

But why do I have to wait?

Do what you love. Be who you are. And have faith that things are the way they are for an ultimately GREAT reason.

Much love,
Resse

::Sweet Aesthetics - Decisions (Guest Post)::

 I am surrounded by so much talent and many great writers. One of whom is Deylon, affectionately known as @babebro11 on 'The Twitter' (gosh I LOVE when people say it like that! lol) Anywho, he has some very insightful thoughts and perspectives. It's nice to see a young man's point of view from time to time. He can be found at:

http://tangledupinmythoughts.blogspot.com/
http://www.thevoiceempire.blogspot.com/
Check out his poems and short stories as well as follow him on 'The Twitter' C-:



Decisions

I been watchin you as you watch dude
checkin ya makeup and fixin ya hair hopin he'll come talk to you.
In the club every week tryna find a man
acceptin drinks from fans but none worthy of even a dance.
Or maybe they're worthy of more than you think,
but you'll never give them a chance.
But this man can get anything you've ever had
and this is all just off a glance.
Too feminine to approach him, you just sit back and grin.
Pointin him out to your friends
And saying ever so drunkenly "i'm gonna get him"
But then again
He's there and you're here
And you're too scared to go anywhere near.
So you peer through the bunches of people on the dance floor
And here I am
sippin my drink
Henny on the rocks for me
and from where I'm standing it seems you're drinking a long island iced tea.
Your favorite color is pink... I think..
I can tell by your accessories and the highlights in your eyelashes that sparkle everytime you blink.
No longer just sittin in VIP
you up on your feet
partyin
movin to the beat
feelin the effects of the liquor, hoping dude will see.
And you were right, sure coulda fooled me.
Mission accomplished for you
He bought you a few more drinks.. you even got him to go home with you.
I wonder if he's the dude that's going to be your boo.
Prolly not.
You see he's married,
you woulda knew that too if you woulda just looked at the ring.
He left you in a bed of uncertainty
with just a sheet covering your nude body.
Making his way out your apartment while you were sleep
Not giving a fuck how you feel or what you think.
He even left a note saying "thanks for the ass" under a cup on the sink.
As for me,
I went home,
watched some TV, found somethin to eat and fell asleep.